When God created my wife Ting, He created her to be extraordinary. My wife was like a shooting star, although her time here on earth was short, when you saw her you could not help but feel blessed. All those who encountered her were impacted by the bright light that illuminated from her soul. Although the time she spent with us was far too short. Her beauty and elegance were radiant that all could see. But, just like the shooting star all who encountered her were awestruck by the beauty of her heart. My wife had a smile that could have brought light into any dark room. She was full of joy. Those who were around her could not escape the abundance of joy that resonated from her soul.

As we are here today, we are here to remember an extraordinary woman who God used to impact so many lives. Everything that my wife did was full of the grace. My wife was many things to many people. She was a beloved a math teacher at the Urban Assembly School of Business For Young Woman. My wife had a deep passion in not only teaching math, but she had a deep passion for the students she taught. She would often tell me that these kids have potential, but because they are young they have different priorities. She was extremely proud when see learned that a few of her students were able to pass the Math B regents. My wife was known by her students to be a tough teacher. She would often tell me how the students would complain about how hard the tests were. My wife wanted the best out of her students; she felt that it was her duty as a teacher to bring out the best out of her students.

My wife was also a beloved Sunday school teacher. She has taught Sunday school at the Church of Grace to Fujianese and Long Island Abundant Life. She had a deep passion for the youth that she encountered. I remember when I was pastoring at the Church of Grace to Fujianese; she was always there for the teachers’ training sessions. She was dependable and was deeply committed in helping people grow in their relationship with Jesus. My wife was a Sunday school teacher at Long Island Abundant Life Church. She taught the 6th and 7th grade Sunday school classes. She would often tell me how proud she was of her students and how hard they would work at memorizing their Bible verses. One of the things she enjoyed the most was arriving early to the Sunday school class to watch the youth play and to laugh along with them.

My wife was a beloved friend to many. She was the type of friend who was always giving of herself to others. She loved her friends dearly and gave all of herself unconditionally. My wife never expected anything in return for the love that she gave out. I remember her spending countless hours helping other people at their wedding and when it came time for our wedding she did not want to place the burden on others. She always thought on the behalf of others.

My wife was a beloved sister to her younger brother Xiang. She loved her brother and was always protective of him. She would always defend him and always stood up for him. When she used to go shopping, if she had brought me something, she would always remember to buy Xiang something. She only wanted the best for her little brother.

My wife was a beloved daughter. She was a person who placed honoring her parents on a high priority. It took us five years to finally get married because she wanted her parents’ blessing. My wife would often speak about how we should support both our parents when we get married.

Ting was also my beloved wife. Our days together as husband and wife may only have lasted 5 days. The days we spent as husband and wife were the best days of our lives.
My wife was precious and beautiful inside and outside. Being a pastor’s wife, she often was in the background and in my shadows. No one really knew how great and capable a woman my wife was. My wife was a genius in Math. My wife was modest in everything she did. She never boasted about her work or her ability. She never expected people to praise her or acknowledge her work. My wife was self-sacrificing, always thinking and putting others before herself.

No one really realize the woman of God she was; When we started our journey of courtship, many people doubted her spiritual maturity. She was clumsy and had a care-free spirit. I remember when we were first dating; she was so clumsy that she would often spill the drink on the table. But, the Lord transformed her to be a woman of deep spirituality. She was my rock who I leaned on. My wife has been with me in my deepest and darkest days. She was the only one around when I stuffed my mental breakdown. She carried me in the dry season of my soul. She would often say to me, “Don’t worry honey, God is in control.”

My wife was all that a man could ask for in a wife. She was supportive of me in everything that I did. She was supportive in my ministries. Every Sunday she would wait for me as I run around doing ministry. During basketball season she woke up early every Saturday to come with me to basketball practice. She would often sit by the bench and watch the boys practice. She would be at every one of the basketball games to cheer and support the team. My wife was one who would balance my checkbook and paid my bills. She was the one who did all the cleaning at my house. The night before she passed away, she said to me all she wanted to do was to make me happy and be a good wife.

When my wife died a part of me died with her. No words can express the pain that is in my heart. No tears can express the sorrow that is in my heart. No groans can express the agony that is in my heart. My wife may have departed from us in this world. But, those would who know Jesus Christ, knows that we are not here to say good-bye, but only to say see you again. The reason why our grief hurts so much is because we love her so much. My wife’s death hurts so much, because she was so special. She truly was God’s blessing to this world. I love you Ting and I miss you so much.

In the hands of God.
Feb 10, 1980-July 31 2008